Workshops are offered on the first weekend of every month! Register using the form below.
Sometimes in the hustle and bustle of having a new baby, we neglect to take care of our partnerships. Unfortunately, research has shown that 2/3 of couples experience a drastic decline in relationship satisfaction after the birth of a baby. Drs. Julie and John Gottman, the researchers behind the famous "Love Lab," developed a research-based 2-day intervention for new parents that has shown to be enormously effective. Compared to couples who did not participate in the program, couples who did participate experienced:
couple Relationship Quality
- High stable relationship quality
- Less hostility expressed by both husbands and wives during conflict discussions
- In same-sex couples, these effects were even more significant
- Greater sensitivity and responsiveness to their infant’s signals
- Better co-parenting abilities during family play
- Better attachment security (especially with dads)
Infant Development & Temperament
- Fewer language delays in one-year-old infants
- Babies expressed more smiling and laughter during family play
- Mothers rated their babies as showing less distress in response to limitations (such as having a toy out of reach)
- Fathers reported being more involved in parenting and feeling more satisfied and appreciated for their parental contributions.
- More positive father-baby interactions, and better father-baby attachment security
- 1-year-old babies were rated as responding more positively to their fathers’ soothing
- Less postpartum depression, the baby blues, anxiety, and other indicators of psychopathology such as anxiety in both mothers and fathers.
This workshop is designed for couples expecting a baby, or who have already transitioned into parenthood. I welcome babes-in-arms to come with parents to the workshop (usually under 6-months). Typically, there is a combination of couples who are expecting their first child, with more seasoned parents; and couples experiencing distress and struggle, with those who have not yet faced parenting challenges. Couples find the workshop intense, informative, emotional, fun, and enormously helpful.
Fee: $250/couple for 10 hours of workshop, 1-hour of individualized couples' counseling, and Bringing Baby Home supplies and materials. Scholarships are available. My class fee is covered by Microsoft EAP benefits!
Dates: The first weekend of every month! See form below for specific dates.
Couples Workshop: Saturday 9 am - 4 pm, and Sunday, 9 am - 4 pm, with an hour on your own for lunch, both days.
LGBTQ Couples Workshop: All families are welcome to all of my workshops, but twice a year, I offer a special BBH Workshop designed for LGBTQ couples. A 12-year study out of the Gottman Institute has found that this workshop is enormously effective for same-sex couples-- even more so than heterosexual couples.
Booster session: Along with the group workshop, I offer one hour of individualized counseling in my office, in your home, or via skype, at a mutually arranged time in the 12 months following the workshop.
Where: Learning Resource Center West, Poplar Hall, Rm 106, 1302 NE Campus Pkwy, or Alder Hall, Rm 103, 1310 NE 40th St., University of Washington campus (right off "the Ave").
How to register: Fill out the informational form below and SUBMIT. I will be in contact with you about confirming workshop registration and payment information.
Material: I present material from the Gottman Institute using PowerPoint slides, handouts, discussion, reflection, and skill building. You and your partner will be interacting a lot!
At the end of this workshop, you will be able to:
• Understand what to expect during the transition to parenthood
• Understand the social-emotional needs of an infant
• Create strategies to co-parent with your partner
• Learn ways to improve communication
• Demonstrate how to strengthen friendship, intimacy and conflict regulation skills
• Recognize the signs of postpartum mood, anxiety, and adjustment disorders and be aware of support or treatment options
- Moving through time together: the transition to parenthood
- Building love maps: knowing each other
- Share fondness and admiration
- Turn towards: build an emotional bank account
- Maintain the positive perspective
- Ritualize the daily stress reducing conversation
- Flooding, self-soothing and taking breaks
- Recognize the four warning signs of relationship meltdown
- Practice the four steps of constructive problem solving
- Honor mothers and fathers
- Recognize the importance of fathers
- Understand the baby blues, postpartum mood disorders, and other mental health issues
- Connect with your children
- Preserve intimacy and romance
- Create shared meaning and values